Anita Joseph, a Nigerian actress, artist, and media figure, wed her spouse MC Fish in February 2020. The couple marked three years of marriage last month. Anita Joseph discusses what marriage has taught her thus far, the key to her relationship with her husband, and the advise she has for young or aspiring couples in a recent interview with The Punch. Here are Anita Joseph’s words.
During the interview, Anita Joseph was asked “What have you learnt from your marriage so far?” She responded:
ANITA JOSEPH: I have learnt that when one loves someone, one loves everything about them. Love is total and whole. My marriage is beautiful, and it is by God’s grace. I have learnt a lot of things from my marriage. I have learnt patience and more submission. Sometimes, I may not like something but I don’t want to stir it up so I become much calmer. When you love someone, you do everything to make them happier.
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“You and your husband share a special connection. What’s the secret?”
ANITA JOSEPH: It is God and He alone. He has been our connection. My husband knows me and I know him. He has been my friend. That is why we connect. When some people get married to a woman, they sometimes stop the things they used to do for that woman when they were wooing her. But, with my husband, it is not like that. In fact, I am the one running away from going out, because I am not really an outgoing person because I have a lot of things to do at home. I am busy at home, trying to balance a lot of things and rest.
This is some of the reasons some marriages go haywire; because the man changes immediately after they get married. Since February 14, 2020, it has been beautiful. My connection with my husband is heavenly and we are intimate. We talk about everything. We don’t hide anything from each other. Before my husband makes any decision, he talks to me about it. Before I do too, I talk to him about it. So, he is my paddy. Sometimes, I will say to him, “Babe, we are married now, you know?” This is because it still looks like we are still courting. This is why it is different.
“What is your advice to young and intending couples?”
ANITA JOSEPH: My advice to young and intending couples is for them to bring God into their marriage. Know God by yourself so that you don’t make mistakes in marriage. One must be ready to listen, obey and direct. Wives must be ready to be their husbands’ friends. Listen to him more. Pay attention to your husband. Have patience. Be submissive and tolerate (each other). Men should also love their wives wholeheartedly like God loves the church.
If you know that you will not stop chasing women around, leave the woman alone. Men must also be ready be listen and know their wives’ demands and needs. Be intentional about the things you say to your wife. Buy her presents. Even if you don’t have one, try and do something.
I also beg couples to learn to solve their problems by themselves.