There are a variety of reasons why people form connections. Different types of partnerships end for a variety of reasons. It happens for a variety of reasons, including infidelity, irreconcilable conflicts, a lack of honesty, and so on.
However, there is another reason why people enter into relationships, and it is one that is rarely discussed: to prove a point. Maybe someone said something negative about you, and you feel compelled to prove them wrong by doing whatever it takes to refute what they said. Erica Nweledim, a Nigerian actress and Big Brother Naija participant, finds herself in this scenario.
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Erica opened out about a relationship she regrets during a game of Never Have I Ever with KraksTV. She described why she dated the man and how their relationship ended. Here’s what Erica had to say.
In answering the game’s question, “Never have I ever regretted a kiss or relationship?” Erica responded saying:
I have. Well those people are part of the people I don’t know anymore. Okay so let me give the safe explanation.
There was one person and on a normal day I will not have dated him because I don’t think we would have even met if not for maybe Instagram or something. The person met me and was always trying to make me feel like ‘oh, you’re one of those girls that is always trying to do big girl. Blah blah blah.’ So I was always trying to PROVE that no, I’m not forming big girl. Then the person now started making me feel like ‘Oh, I’m sure you can’t date broke guys’. I was so stupid. And then I found out that I ended up dating this person just to prove that I can date broke guys. So I can prove that ‘oh, I’m not a gold digger or something’. The relationship was HELL. Because we couldn’t even do basic stuff like go out on date because obviously, there was no money. It was so stressful. And when I’d go out with my friends like male, female, the person is like ‘Oh, I’m sure there are other guys that are chasing you’. The person was just so insecure because obviously, no money. And any little fight we have, the person will relate it to the fact that ‘oh, it’s because I don’t have money’. Please go and fix your insecurities and stop trying to drag me down with you. I regret that relationship.
Erica is not the only person that has done this. It is very much a cautionary tale. You don’t need to prove anything to anybody. If somebody says, ‘oh you only date people you think are fine’, will you now go and date someone you think it’s not fine? It’s not everything you need to prove and I’m happy Erica learned this and is now sharing this story as an example of how these kinds of situations go because they happen more frequently than you think.