Really, no lady enjoys being poor. Every spinster desires a charming prince who carries large stacks of naira money. The truth is that many single women would pass over a man who makes N50,000 a month and doesn’t have a car!
But hundreds would go to great lengths to land a wealthy bachelor with excellent wages or a successful business who could cover the cost of an extravagant wedding that would be worthy of Instagram.
You can count the number of ladies who ‘build the future’ with an ‘upcoming’ guy.
Build a future? Yes, the way Mide Funmi Martins did with her husband Afeez Abiodun aka Afeez Owo
Mide, who is the daughter of late actress, Funmi Martins grabbed what life thrust at her when she lost her beautiful mother
Afeez Owo was her late mother’s manager who helped her with all the works the deceased could not complete before her death.
You would agree that Afeez is not a ‘Prince Charming’ unlike his beautiful wife. Well, Mide gave a reason why she agreed to date him 20 years ago.
She confessed that she rejected him when he initially asked her out.
“Of course, it sounded strange when he initially came up with that idea, I asked him if he was okay. I did not even think it would be possible because I saw him like my brother and we were very close. Initially, I told him it was not possible for us to become lovers but with time, I saw some qualities in him which I admired.”
The qualities the beautiful actress and now mother of two saw was not money because Afeez wasn’t rich or good-looking then.
Maybe she can explain in her own words, “He proved to be a reliable person. He is faithful, caring and has a good heart plus the fact that he is very easy-going. All of these appealed to me and I reasoned that I should give him a chance in my life.”
Still staying happily married 19 years after, Mide would advise any lady seeking a man to marry to adhere to this advice:
First, she proffered patience
It is good to be patient because not all that glitters is gold. My marriage has been a success because I practised patience. When we started, things were not as smooth as I wanted it to be but I was patient with him. We had our good and bad times but it’s necessary that you remain calm during the bad times.”
This is her number two advice—shun money.
She advised in an interview with PUNCH:
“Remember that money does not guarantee happiness. Bachelors and spinsters should marry someone that is reliable and makes them happy.”
The third tip on how to get a good husband is from Afeez. A actor/producer/director, he should be able to know who the ‘good girls’ are.
Advising women, Afeez said he married not only a beautiful woman but one who one who has motherly traits.
He said, “My wife is beautiful and I realised that she is a simple person who has got a good head on her shoulders. When my ex-girlfriend cheated on me then, she was one of the people who begged on her behalf but I had already made up my mind. It was after a while I started dating Mide. We have been married for almost 19 years now and she is like my mother and I love her so much.”
Ladies, ready to embrace these characteristics as you search for Mr Right? Please do.
The couple is blessed with two children